Friday, August 12, 2011

Fidelia's Friday - Being a young mother of two young children

When I first gave birth to Lauren, I was 22 and in my final year of university. I was taking a Bachelor in Chemical Engineering. This course takes 4  and a half years to complete. During my final year, I found out I was pregnant with Lauren and I had to put my studies and scholarship on hold for a year. 

I gave birth to Lauren via emergency C-section on January 7th, 2008. It was the happiest and most emotional day for me when I heard her first cry. Too bad Duncan wasn't there in the operation theater with me. I had to go through a painful experience before she was born. I was diagnosed with Impending Eclampsia (IE). My blood pressure suddenly went up during the last few weeks of my pregnancy. I got dripped on both of my hands and blood pressure taken every 15 minutes using the automatic machine. I felt like I was going to die! I just couldn't wait for Lauren to be born.

Now Lauren is 3 years and 7 months old! I can't believe how fast the time has passed. I had to leave her with Duncan when she was 6 months old because I had to resume my studies. It wasn't easy to have a baby and study at the same time. Sometimes I went back home late at night because of night classes. Two years later, I finally graduated! I couldn't believe it myself that I managed to complete it and my results were better than some of my friends who were not married and had no children at that time. I am proud of myself! I am grateful and thankful for the support I had received during those couple of hard years, especially from my husband, Duncan.

After I completed my studies, I went to work and I had to leave Lauren with Duncan again but this time she was a lot bigger. I didn't feel that bad!

Last year, I found out I was pregnant again with Leah, at 25 years old. We were all so excited especially Lauren who finally would have someone to play with. She was born on June 15th 2011. Today she got her 2-month injection and she cried as loud as she could. I felt for her! Giving birth to Leah was a lot easier than Lauren. I was having natural contractions and  I was in a short labour before she was born. So, that was good! Duncan had many problems with the hospital staff and he could go on and on about that! They didn't tell him anything at all. They don't really involve the husbands when it comes to their wives being in labour! 

Anyway, this time Duncan was there to witness the birth of Leah. It was again the happiest and most emotional day of my life! It was the same as when I had Lauren. I love them both so much and being a mother of two is a very busy life for me. Need to bathe, feed and keep them occupied. I love being a mother. Waking up in the middle of the night is a normal routine for me. I have no complaints!

So, how do enjoy your motherhood/fatherhood? Have you ever thought of being a mother/father one day? I always wanted to be a mother! I am now and I love it! I love every single moment of it!


  1. good for you sis.. <3 im glad u have them.. they're also my bundle of joys

  2. Hi Fidelia. You're getting so good at this Friday blog spot of yours!!! You did SO well to graduate (especially in such a hard subject) and to get good marks, with a young baby. It couldn't have been easy. I'm sure that Duncan is very proud of you also. It was good that he was able to help out. From what I've read, he does seem like a very caring husband and dad! I have two children, but there were seven years between them, so not so hard!! My youngest daughter has a three year old and a 20 month old, and they certainly keep her very busy!!! Have a lovely weekend.

  3. Hi Fidelia. Great story! I should really try to be a mother soon. I'm not 25 anymore!

  4. Fidelia, I understand you very well, as I am myself mother of two, and I had my first baby when I was studying. It was a difficult time but this was very long time ago. My son is 41 now, and my daughter is 29. There is a 12 years difference between them, which is not too good for their relationship. You did well you had the second baby so soon. Enjoy this time because when the children grow up there are much more problems.

    Congrats for your Friday blog!

  5. Hi Fidelia - what a lovely post. It's nice to hear of your pride for your two beautiful children. May you all enjoy happy and healthy lives.

  6. Giving birth can be such a wild ride! So glad to have found your blog - the photography is wonderful

  7. Always nice to read you Fidelia on Friday! I think you like it by now.
    What a lovely account of motherhood. I am sure it is an amazing time when you become mum and just to say you have two lovely little princesses.
    You are a great and always smiley family. God bless you with a nice future.

  8. Congrats for being able to juggle your role as a mother and student so successfully. Luckily you have your husband Duncan by your side, helping you to bring up Lauren and now Leah so well. I guess motherhood is never a simple role. And of course children are indebted to their parents, especially the mother for carrying them for nine months and then having to nurse. Your writing is coming along nicely.

  9. Such a beautiful story, enjoyed reading it.
    Best wishes to your entire family.

  10. Dearest sister, Anna: I am glad they are your bundle of joy too!

    Thisisme: Thank u! Duncan is a great father! Our children are so lucky to have him as their daddy! He is a wonderful husband to me too! So grateful that he loves me so much.

    Jaya J: Yes, u should!

    Traveling Hawk , Craig, Happy Homemaker UK, MarieHarmony & anthony stemke: Thank you so much!

    ordinary malaysian: yes, i am so lucky to have my husband by my side all the time! I can never do it alone!

  11. Well done achieving your degree as a young mother. Enjoy your family they grow up oh so quickly.

  12. Hi Linda, thanks for the contribution. It is true they grow up way too quickly!

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