Thursday, September 13, 2012

My Journey to Kuantan - Part 4 - Love at First Sight

This week I am sharing a series of blog posts explaining how I ended up where I am today - in Kuantan. If you have missed any previous posts, you can get yourself acquainted with them here:

PART 1 - RAISED IN ENGLAND (1982-2002)


PART 2 - SERVING AS A VOLUNTEER (2002-2004)


PART 3 - MISSING MALAYSIA (2004-2005)


I came back to Malaysia for my second holiday in a year in May 2005. This time I went alone and for a period of 3 months. I had planned all the places I was going to visit and the people I wanted to see, including Kuala Lumpur, Ipoh, Kuching and Singapore.

However, just a few days into my holiday, on the island of Borneo, a girl called Fidelia threw my plans upside-down in a matter of seconds!

Meeting Fidelia one night in Kuching was completely unplanned. I didn't even know she was around. It was her younger sister Florina, who made the call and engineered our meeting.

It was after 10pm and Fidelia was coming back home from work. She walked through the door of a friend's house and it was love at first sight!

I don't know how it happened but I just thought silently in my mind, "this is the girl I'm going to marry!"


This was a picture we took on that first night we met each other. We look good together already!

Just a month later we were engaged. Can you believe it? Neither can I!


Here's where I proposed to Fidelia with a poem I wrote. Can you tell she said "yes"?!


We held a very simple engagement party at Fidelia's home. Didn't cost much but it was a nice evening spent with family and friends


Can you spot the mystery hovering paper plate?!


I briefly went to Ipoh but didn't last long there as I missed Fidelia too much! I swiftly returned to Kuching! The rest of my holiday was spent with Fidelia in Kuching and then in Kuala Lumpur.

At church in Kuching


We came in 2nd place and won RM100 in a blowpipe competition in Kuching! (How good does Fidelia look?!)


At Mid-valley Megamall in Kuala Lumpur


Our favourite picture together at KL Tower


We had a great day out at Sunway Lagoon water park. Later we spent some time on a children's train, and chocolate tasting at Sunway Pyramid, Subang Jaya, West Malaysia






Here's where my holiday came to an end. I was shortly heading back to England. Fidelia was returning to her studies at university near Kuantan.


I racked up a hefty RM12,000 phone bill during the period of August 2005 - April 2006. Gave my mum a cheque each month to cover it. At times it was worth it, but at times we drove each other crazy by calling at all sorts of hours (because of the time difference) and worrying about things that didn't really need to be worried about! These months were torture!


 We decided to get married in May 2006 and we would find a place in nearby Kuantan as Fidelia's university was 30 minutes drive from there.


Here are the home-made wedding invitation cards I designed. Didn't pay a penny for them!






On 2nd May, 2006 we registered our marriage at the Kuching register office, and came back to sign the papers on 4th May




To celebrate our marriage we simply booked a nearby restaurant for a small sum of money. A good-sized group of family and friends attended and it was a very nice evening. There was no huge cake, no lavish setting, no photographers, no expensive clothing code, just us and close family and friends. That's all we spent and it was worth it because we needed the money for the start of our married life, paying rent and bills etc...


We took some great photos at a studio in Kuching for a good price, and here are a few of them:






In traditional Iban attire


The second part of our marriage took place in England. There we were married inside a LDS temple, which event is kind of like going to Mecca and circling the Kaaba for a Muslim. To find out more about Mormon temples, you can follow this link:






Here we are at the London England temple grounds





On the steps of the London England temple


We had a small gathering at my home in Leicester for family and friends and that was it.

My journey to Kuantan is almost complete!



Don't miss the final installment tomorrow!



Wednesday, September 12, 2012

My Journey to Kuantan - Part 3 - Missing Malaysia

If you missed earlier parts of the story, you can catch up by clicking these links:




Upon returning to England from my 2-year volunteer service, I went through a short period of depression.

Such was the extent to which I had fallen in love with Malaysia and Singapore and its people, that I just couldn't live without it.

I remember stepping off the small propeller plane which had carried me from Frankfurt to Birmingham, and feeling the sheer and utter cold in stark contrast to the warm, tropical conditions of Asia I had become so accustomed to.

It was horrible.

And it was NOT good to be "back."

I sat at home doing nothing. Constantly thinking of my friends in Malaysia, of the myriad great experiences, of the emptiness I now felt in England.

I feel sorry for my mum. She missed me immensely for 2 years, but during that time I had changed to a different person and found a completely new home.

From that moment on, England was just never going to be enough for me.

So in July 2004 I swiftly returned to Malaysia and Singapore and brought my whole family along with me. Seeing my beautiful friends again so soon, and introducing them to my family was a wonderful time!


At Sunway Pyramid, Subang Jaya, West Malaysia


On the skybridge at Petronas Twin Towers, Kuala Lumpur


Meeting friends in Kuala Lumpur













Friends in Ipoh, West Malaysia









At the Sarawak Cultural Village, Kuching, East Malaysia


At my favourite restaurant, Fu Bin Seafood Restaurant, with the staff, in Kuching


With Florianna and Florina, who would later become my sisters-in-law!












Between September 2004 and May 2005 I began working in England. This was a welcome relief because it kept me busy and I was able to earn some money.

I also spent time hanging out with my friends whenever I could.


Met with a fellow volunteer in Malaysia who served with me. Took my best friend with me to Manchester to meet her



Meeting people became interesting as conversations always turned to Malaysia and Singapore and my adventures there.


Met some new friends on a trip to London. It was cold!!





In May 2005 I stopped working and embarked on a second holiday 'back home' to Malaysia, this time for 3 months. 

The truth is, I never stopped missing the Far East...

And that's where the most vital part of my journey to Kuantan occurs!


Stay tuned to find out tomorrow!